debunking the myth: the full time nanny

Ever since I had kids, having help was always something I wanted and never knew I needed. I actually never knew I would have full time help until I got pregnant with my second baby, Isla. The moment Isla popped her little head out of my cooka, I knew I was going to need a village to help raise these people. So I enlisted the help of a saint of woman who my husband and I had know for 10 years. We knew she would be the only person to trust with our bundles of energy.

What I didn’t expect was the judgement from outsiders. I had people that I knew and complete strangers not understanding why I didn’t work and had full time help. They thought I sat around all day, eating bon bons and watching Bravo. This can be true sometimes… I like a good Netflix and chill moment just like the rest of humanity, but it’s not my daily routine.

I think there is a major misconception of stay at home moms that have nannies (and just know that I hate using that word around other people for the stigma attached with it). People think that women with full time help don’t want to spend time with their children and they think that they are so self involved that their day revolves around manicures and boozy brunches. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

My day, even when not spent with the kids, is centered around my kids, my dogs, or my husband. The days consist of numerous trips to the grocery store, shopping for school clothes, taking the dog to the vet, the list goes on and on. My days are focused on taking care of everyone else, running my side hustles, and a little “me” sprinkled in. I take time to workout… that’s my me time…. just like anyone else including those who work. I don’t take 2 hour lunches, I don’t spa (only the yoni steam y’all), I don’t shop at the mall for hours, I don’t do any of that.

So I think that those who have help, or those who don’t, should own exactly who they are. If you’re someone who doesn’t want help, more power to you. If you are someone who wants some assistance, then savor that time to yourself and don’t apologize to anyone. If you are a working mom then make that money bitch! We are all moms second and humans first and should support whatever a mom chooses to do… insert emoji fist bump here.